Route of all EVIL?

Assalamu alaykum

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Time spent with sisters who have yet to see the full extent of the world and those who inhabit it, is often spent discussing the lack of 'pious brothers' on the other hand many boys trying to be men discuss the fact that there are no sisters out there who will be right for them. More often then not these discussions lead to belittleing and often misrepresenting those of the opposite sex.

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Now of course I am limited in what I can speak about due to some lack of ecperience, however what I do know is this.. people who have high expections are often in for disappointment. Now more then ever people are looking for what people can do for them rather then what they can do for others. This is a symptoms that as indiviuals we are guilty of in our own communities, its appling and disheartening. Somthings I have heard, Subhnalah just makes me want to scream... Women are not the route of all evil you know!!

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I am just fed up of the critisinging and degrading that happend on more often daily and more frequenty then i would have hoped.

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We, both Men and Women are equal in the sight of Allah, we are slaves just like each other, we have emotions, we have an intellect a voice a mind, we have strengths and weaknesses, we are human, we are not the route of all evil, if this was true, well then so are men because women were created from the rib of a man.

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We are just so demanding! Men and women both are always striving to get what they need, in reality it is usually something that we want! The most prominate example of this is I need to get married or I need a husband with this that and the other, usually giving a hundred and one vital qualities. In reality our egos trick us to think that we need many things that the nafs wants. Expecting the best is natuaral (I use the term very lightly), who wants to settle for anything less, but think about the pressures that we see facing ourselves as women, as muslims, as daugters and as wives. We are very quick to say that "oh but why are others being picky" and "why cant they just see that we are human". Well then, wouldnt that apply to others, and not just ourselves. Do not let our nafs delude us in anyway. We want, we are demanding in things that we can and should not be dewling too much on.

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When we falls into the traps of our nafs we undermine the respect of Allah's commandments and submission. We must humble ourselves infront of our Rabb. In salah we humble that most high part of our body, and we humble it to the heart, in sajood it becomes the highest part. We remember Allah using the heart, limbs, and tongue in total devotion. If we turn our hearts and tongue to Allah, Allah will turn to us and lift the veil bewteen man and his Rabb in order for us to converse with The Creator the Most High.

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“Pay attention to Allaah and He will pay attention to you.”

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This is the purpsose of man's creation.

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In prayer Allah has placed the most perfect degree of servenship (al-ubudiyya) And seek help in patience and prayer [al-Baqarah 2:45]

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The one who seeks to see the Face of Allah, Shaytaan will come to him through his desires, the ego, and make man neglegent of his worship. Shaytaan knows the part of man and plays on an individual's desires, taking the nafs wants as the primary focus. The Salaf always used to keep a little bit of hunger, why is this? So that the nafs will be preocupied with fulfilling the need of hunger, once this need is fulfilled the nafs would turn to other desires to be fulfilled, and may start wanted haram.

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Eat and drink, but waste not by extravagance [al-A’raaf 7:31]

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So better to keep the nafs busy with halal rather then to tempt haram.If the nafs is preocupied then the person can direct his other attention to good, for the search for knowledge, to give sadakah and in worship of Allah.

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And take a provision (with you) for the journey, but the best provision is al-taqwa (piety, righteousness) [al-Baqarah 2:197]

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By no means shall you attain al-birr (righteousness) until you spend (in Allaah’s cause) of that which you love [Aal ‘Imraan 3:92]

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When the soul commands towards evil, Allah puts the soul at peace, when the sould is tempted with evil, Allah restrains man from it, when the soul restrians man from good, Allah commands us to do it.

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And yet, I am not trying to absolve myself: for, verily, man's inner self does incite [him] to evil, and saved are only they upon whom my Sustainer bestows His grace. Behold, my Sustainer is much forgiving, a dispenser of grace!" Surah Yusuf:53

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Ibn al-Qayyim said: “Jihaad is of four stages: jihaad al-nafs (striving against the self), jihaad al-shayaateen (striving against the shayaateen or devils), jihaad al-kuffaar (striving against the disbelievers) and jihaad al-munaafiqeen (striving against the hypocrites).

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Jihaad al-nafs means striving to make oneself learn true guidance, and to follow it after coming to know it, calling others to it, and bearing with patience the difficulties of calling others to Allaah. Jihaad al-Shaytaan means striving against him and warding off the doubts and desires that he throws at a person, and the doubts that undermine faith, and striving against the corrupt desires that he tries to inspire in a person. Jihaad against the kuffaar and munaafiqeen is done in the heart and on the tongue, with one’s wealth and oneself. Jihaad against the kuffaar mostly takes the form of physical action, and jihaad against the munaafiqeen mostly takes the form of words… The most perfect of people are those who have completed all the stages of jihaad. People vary in their status before Allaah according to their status in jihaad.”(Zaad al-Ma’aad 3/9-12)

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Subhnallah if i remember correctly someone described it so beutifully.... People think that they want a husband but that void in their hearts can olny be filled by Allah and in His rememberence.

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I know so many people who are in love... and the funny thing is there is no one in their lives, in fact they are in love with being in love! It sounds sooo silly beacuse it is! Like a very knowlegdeble sisters said, we waste so much time waiting to get married, we think too much about something that has alreday been written. "The pen has lifted and the ink has dried" so why make yourself crazy about what will happen when its alreday in motion and will happen, by the will of Allah, its His Qadr.

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We look into our desires and our base nafs so much that we forget the perpose of creation in ibadat of Allah! How can we forget The One who created us!

remember...

Woman was made from the rib of man,

She was not created from his head to top him,

Nor form his feet to be stepped upon,

She was made from his side to be close to him,

From beneath his arm to be protected by him,

Near his heart to be loved by him.

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And Allaah knows best.